If you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community, you may have heard the term “kito.” It is a Nigerian slang term for gay hunters, serial killers, kidnappers, and abusers who catfish gay men to extort money from them or dehumanize them. It’s essential to know how they operate, how to spot them, and what to do to stay safe while visiting someone, especially after verifying if they’re a kito or not.
What Does the Word “Kito” Mean?
As mentioned earlier, the word “kito” refers to someone who preys on gay men for their own gain. Some of these people are gay men who suffer from internalized homophobia, while others are straight individuals who hate the LGBTQ+ community and wish them harm.
How Do Kitos Operate?
Kitos join gay platforms and learn the slang and terminology that gay men use. They then create a profile and start interacting with gay men as if they are one of them. They send explicit pictures of themselves to entice their targets, and they engage in conversations and video chats to gain their trust. Some of them may refuse to send their pictures or do video chats because they’re already prominently known as kitos.
How Can You Spot a Kito?
Spotting a kito can be difficult, but there are a few tips that can help you stay safe:
- They Will Do Everything to Gain Your Trust: While this is not a guarantee that someone is a kito, if they refuse to send a face pic or do a video chat, it may be a red flag.
- They Will Pester You to Come Visit Them: This is a common tactic that kitos use. They may ask you to visit them, telling you that they’re not a kito. If someone is pressuring you to visit them, take that into consideration.
- They’re Sexual: Kitos will try to get you to say something sexual in your conversations with them to prove that you’re gay. They will then hold the evidence or screenshot the chat to threaten you with it. They may tell you that if you don’t pay a certain amount, they will give the chat to the police or the community people around you and dehumanize you.
What You Should Do While Chatting with Someone You Don’t Know Yet
- Keep the Chat Neutral: Don’t chat sexually, and if the person is pestering you to be sexual, ignore that conversation. Don’t chat in a way that would expose your sexuality unless you fully know or trust the person.
- Always Request a Picture and a Video Call: If the person doesn’t comply, ignore that conversation and don’t force it.
Visiting someone for the first time can be exciting, but it can also be risky, especially if you’re visiting an unfamiliar place or a person you don’t know well. However, there are steps you can take to ensure your safety and make the visit a pleasant experience. In this article, we’ll provide you with some tips on what to do when you’re visiting someone for the first time.
- Verify the Person’s Identity
Before visiting someone for the first time, it’s important to verify their identity to ensure that they are who they say they are. This can be done by checking their social media profiles or by asking mutual friends about them. It’s also essential to be aware of ‘kito’ or fraudsters who might pose as the person you’re visiting. If you’re unsure about their identity, it’s best to postpone the visit or choose to meet in a public place.
- Carry Enough Transportation Fare
When visiting someone for the first time, it’s essential to carry enough transportation fare. This ensures that you can quickly escape any danger, especially if you find yourself in a dangerous situation. For instance, if you’re dropped off by a bike man who happens to be a kito, having enough fare would enable you to quickly escape the situation by entering another means of transportation. It’s also crucial to avoid relying on promises of transportation fare from the person you’re visiting as you may end up stranded if they fail to fulfill their promise.
- Listen to Your Mind and Conscience
It’s essential to listen to your mind and conscience when visiting someone for the first time. Your brain releases a chemical called adrenaline when it senses danger or stress. This chemical prepares your body for a fight-or-flight response, which is a natural response to a real threat. However, it’s essential to differentiate between real danger and anxiety-triggered danger. If your mind senses danger, it’s advisable to stop and go back, no matter how much transportation fare you’ve spent.
- Don’t Carry Valuables
When visiting someone for the first time, it’s advisable not to carry valuables, such as expensive phones or jewelry. This is because, in the event of a kito or robbery, you may lose all your valuables. It’s also important to avoid carrying a phone with important contacts as it may put them at risk of being used for ransom.
- Share Your Live Location with Trusted Friends or NGOs
Sharing your live location with trusted friends or NGOs is essential when visiting someone for the first time. This ensures that they can monitor your movements and trace you in case of any danger. It’s crucial to share your location with people you trust as it puts your safety in their hands.
- Don’t Update Your Movements
When visiting someone for the first time, it’s important not to update your movements. This means that you should avoid telling the person when you’re coming and going. Instead, give them a random date, and surprise them when you show up. This ensures that the person you’re visiting is not prepared for your arrival, which can reduce the chances of any danger.
In conclusion, visiting someone for the first time can be a pleasant experience if you take the necessary precautions. By verifying the person’s identity, carrying enough transportation fare, listening to your mind and conscience, avoiding carrying valuables, sharing your live location with trusted friends or NGOs, and not updating your movements, you can ensure your safety and have an enjoyable visit. Remember, safety is first always!
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